Hi! My name is Sarah. I'm a stay at home mom to a 7 year old daughter named Izzy and a 5 year old son named Ryan. Being their mom is the best, worst, hardest, and most rewarding job in the universe.
I had the hardest time coming up with what to write for this article. I mean, parenting in itself is a struggle from day to day of course, but I kept thinking what could I possibly write that any other parent would want to read? Especially when I feel like I'm doing a terrible job at being a mom most days.
Then it dawned on me. That's it! Every parent out there has at some point felt like an incompetent failure at parenting. What we need to realize is that we aren't alone, and that someone somewhere is experiencing the same thing as us. What would we tell another parent in our situation? We would be sympathetic to their plight and tell them that they are being silly, of course they're doing a great job, look at that amazing kid they're raising!!
These words of kindness and understanding should not just be reserved for others. We should say these words to ourselves each and every day. Because in a world full of people that are so critical of one another, the last thing we need is to be hard on ourselves.
So what if you let your child pick their own clothes and they don't match! Applaud your child's confidence and individuality and march them into school with head held high!! So you lost your temper and yelled at your kids last night. Apologize to them like you would anyone else and move past it, it happens to everyone!! Trust me, to your children, you are the sun, the moon, and all of the stars.
The fact that you yell sometimes, or feed them fast food once in awhile, or skip a couple pages in the bedtime story when they aren't looking (oh c'mon we've all done it!), are not even blips on the radar of their childhood. You know what does make a childhood? You. Your presence as often as possible just as you are, being present in the moment with your child and not caring what anyone thinks about you or your parenting methods. We need to be kind to ourselves, because that is what our kids will see and mimic. We need to do the best we can each and every day and feel confident in ourselves.
This is an every day struggle for me personally. I am a constant work in progress as a mom. But when I look into my children's sweet smiling faces, or watch them interact with other people, I know that I have got to be doing something right.